I don’t know about you, but I have known some pretty annoying people in my life. Sometimes I have felt that the individual had a button that they could press to raise my annoyance level. You know the type of people, they chew with their mouth open. Or they crack their knuckles or possibly their voice grates on your nerves. Still better yet, they go on these crazy Facebook rants.
At some point in each of our lives there is that person tests our patience. What do we do about it? Wayne Dyer said, “Every person has a right to be whatever they choose, even if you irritate yourself about it.” I was floored when I read that and thought back to all the times I had allowed myself to get annoyed at a person. Sometimes I found that when I got to know a person that whatever annoying habit I thought they had was not actually annoying.
How someone or something makes me feel is not really about the person or situation. It is about how I am choosing to feel in that moment. The person can do whatever they want and be themselves. If I let it affect me then it ultimately it is my issue not theirs. If I change then their annoying habit disappears.
I just finished Dyer’s book Your Erroneous Zones and I highly recommend it.