Why you are not broken

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It is a popular thing for people to say that they are broken. However, upon looking at what it means to be broken we can realize the blessing that is in it.

An important element of brokenness to understand is that it is the past and you are now not living there. When we declare we are broken it is an affirmation of judgment upon ourselves that leaves no hope for any change.

God has already made you whole and you only need to step into who you are created to be. Spending your time thinking you are broken will only immobilize you further and prevent you from enjoying the present moment.

The past is the past and needs to stay there. You are here now. Whatever happened back in the past is still back there and it is not your present or future. Unless you desire you past to determine your fate. Whatever you focus on, is what is created more of in your life. You are already whole and do not need to fix something.

You are not broken and in fact you never were, it was just a story that you repeated to yourself until you made it true. The truth is you have always been loved and are whole. You are an awesome created being, meant for more in this life. What will you do today?

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Balancing Ownership in Life

 

 

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We live in a world of blame and scapegoating. We want people to ‘own’ there stuff. However, a person who owns it does not deserve to be blamed either. 

I used to be that type of person who was great at pointing the finger at others. It was never my fault. I had a bunch of excuses for everything that did not work out. However, it took me losing my job and almost eventually losing my wife that made me wake up.

When I understood that my thoughts create my world then my attitude toward my situations changed. I began to take ownership for my life, feelings, and thoughts. My marriage improved and my career got on track. However, as I went through this idea of ‘owning it’ I realized I needed to balance some things out in my life.

Ownership does not mean you neglect your feelings or stuff them. It actually means to acknowledge them and then move on. The moving on part is key, because when we dwell too long in them it can lead to complaining. When I complain I lose energy, when I move on and work on it I gain energy. Complaining is like a vampire, it sucks and it sucks your energy.

Get your feelings out, but resist the need to blame a person or situation. Often the answer for why you are upset lies in your past. Your past lends the context, but you are not your past.

A healthy perspective would be for all to realize we all have a hand in the cookie jar. It is never just only one person’s fault. It is not okay for us to blindly point fingers and scapegoat an individual or to demonize a person. When we all ‘own it’ the world tends to be a better place for all of us.

For example, when an employee messes, yes it is their fault, but it is also the supervisor’s responsibility. When we all ‘own it’ instead of blame it is a healthier place to be in.

Another example, when your child gets in trouble at school try to look beyond the problem and into the why. Ask yourself, why did they feel the need to do the thing? What are they saying? Is it the child’s fault for getting into trouble? Yes. But understanding the why helps you solve the real issue.

When we seek to understand the reason why a person acted a certain way then we realize the context. It does not mean the person gets a pass, but does however aid us in resolving it.

What is the Law of Attraction

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What is the Law of Attraction? There are so many books, programs, and speakers communicating on the topic today. But what is it really?

The Law of Attraction was made wildly popular by the book and video The Secret. Simply put, “Like attracts like.” In the United States we have a saying, “birds of a feather flock together.” The Law of Attraction is directly related to what you think about yourself and how you view yourself. We always attract what we are.

In life, there are certain people who we look at and they strike us as a ‘winner.’ It seems that things always work out for them. Or they are able to take lemons of life and make lemonade with ease. Are they really winners? Of course. But that has to do with how they view themselves and from that inner view comes the thoughts they think all day long.

The Law of Attraction has to do with how you view you, because out of that comes the thoughts we think.

Think of it this way, God already thinks you are winner. Now you need to get on the same page.

Do you think a person who is a winner is sitting at home thinking about how life has treated them unfairly? Of course not. They take action and do something. Most importantly they do not waste their thinking on self-defeating thoughts. But again, they have a healthy self-image.

What you experience on this planet is completely up to you. How you spend your time is totally your decision. But ask yourself this question, do I want to spend my time thinking poverty thoughts?

You are a rockstar capable of accomplishing great things. It’s up to you.

How to Overcome Obstacles

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Have you ever experienced difficulty in achieving a goal or dream? An unforeseen obstacle blocked your path and the journey become too much for you.

You may have been on the right path. There is a truth in life called the Law of Opposites and it states that before you see whatever it is that you want, you’ll see the exact opposite. If you desire more friends then you’ll experience what it is like to have no friends. If you want a job then you’ll experience what it is like to be without a job. If you want to be married then you’ll experience what singleness is like.

On the road to finding whatever it is we are looking for we will experience the exact opposite. It is up to us to take note that this is a cue from life indicating that we are in fact on the right track. If you will, the obstacle is the way as Ryan Holiday has said. However, many people take the obstacle as a sign that they need to give up. Or that it is too hard to be done.

The secret truth about goals is that in order to accomplish them we have to become the type of person who is able to achieve that particular goal. For example, the person who is a Doctor is an individual who will have to learn about dedication and discipline to their studies in order to accomplish it. The journey of the goal will change the individual and they will add skills along the way. They will face opposition along the way. The opposition will be different for each person.

However, the opposition is only there to help make you into that the person that achieves  that goal. If it was easy then you might not be able to learn anything about your self. In essence, it is about the journey not the goal.

If you are experiencing obstacles in your life right now then take heart that you are on the right path. Keep going forward in faith that you will be able to achieve it. The mere fact you have a desire to do it means that it is already a possibility.

 

How the Golden Rule can change your life

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I remember being taught the Golden Rule when I was a child, however, I was not prepared for how it has changed my marriage, work, and relationships.

How did the Golden Rule change my life? Simple, I started treating others the way I wanted to be treated. Easy right? However, there were times where my ego got the better of me. Then I realized my ego just meant that I was Edging God Out.

Even in your business it is not about your profit margin, but doing unto others as you would have done to you. Trust God and leave all the consequences up to Him. If you help your competition then they will do the same for you. If they do not then leave those consequences up to God. It is not for you to control the situation. Or as Ram Dass said, we gain more control when we give it away.

If you are having fights in your marriage ask yourself if that is how you wish to be treated? Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated. It may take some time but eventually they will witness that your actions are not an act. They will know how much you love them by your deeds. What would you like to have in your life? It is your choice. Your spouse is not your enemy, because ultimately you both want the same things.

Practice this Golden Rule (Matthew 7:12) and see what happens.

Gratitude creates Happiness

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The more we are grateful is the more that a peace happiness will arise in our hearts. 

I can remember how I used to scoff at people who were always so positive. I’d joke about them with others, but deep inside I wanted to be happier and had no clue how to do it. Thoughts become things in our lives. Our thoughts create our feelings.

I had been thinking thoughts of lack and was critical of myself in all areas. When I began journaling all the things, people, and situations that I was thankful for, a change occurred inside me. My thoughts became more positive and I smiled more. I was happier. On days that I get rushed in the morning and forget to write my list of things I was thankful for would be days that go wrong.

Being thankful is the key to our happiness. It is a choice that anyone can make in any given situation. In the Bible, there is a story of Paul and Silas singing and praising God in a jail. How could they do that in jail? It is a decision they made despite their surroundings and discomforts. The more thankful we are the more happier we will be. The two go hand in hand. Thanks for reading.

Gratitude helps Create a Positive Attitude

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There is power in a positive attitude, because it can empower you to keep going. But how can you generate a positive attitude when you are used to being negative?

I struggled most of my life with a negative attitude. When I would think negatively things would spiral out of control. I would say things to myself like, ‘I am my own worst enemy.’ However, something shifted for me when I was unemployed in the summer of 2013. I decided that if I wanted to change my present position in I was going to have to ditch my negative attitude. I did and everything change.

Wayne Dyer says, ‘When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.’ I took the quote to heart and over a period of time my world became better.

One of the things I did was to keep a gratitude journal. I write in it things, people, and experiences I am thankful for. Even the situations that in the past I would have considered horrible, I write how grateful I am for them. Why? Because I have the choice to go through the experience being upset or being happy. Personally I’d rather be happy everyday of my life than spend my time being angry or bitter.

Writing out what I was grateful for began to direct my happiness. The more I write the more my attitude became positive. I realized I had much to be thankful for. Even when our huge tax bill came this year. I decide to be glad for it, because we have been blessed financially to be able to pay for it.

Our attitudes create our environment. What do you want your world to look like?