How the Golden Rule can change your life


I remember being taught the Golden Rule when I was a child, however, I was not prepared for how it has changed my marriage, work, and relationships.

How did the Golden Rule change my life? Simple, I started treating others the way I wanted to be treated. Easy right? However, there were times where my ego got the better of me. Then I realized my ego just meant that I was Edging God Out.

Even in your business it is not about your profit margin, but doing unto others as you would have done to you. Trust God and leave all the consequences up to Him. If you help your competition then they will do the same for you. If they do not then leave those consequences up to God. It is not for you to control the situation. Or as Ram Dass said, we gain more control when we give it away.

If you are having fights in your marriage ask yourself if that is how you wish to be treated? Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated. It may take some time but eventually they will witness that your actions are not an act. They will know how much you love them by your deeds. What would you like to have in your life? It is your choice. Your spouse is not your enemy, because ultimately you both want the same things.

Practice this Golden Rule (Matthew 7:12) and see what happens.

Gratitude creates Happiness


The more we are grateful is the more that a peace happiness will arise in our hearts. 

I can remember how I used to scoff at people who were always so positive. I’d joke about them with others, but deep inside I wanted to be happier and had no clue how to do it. Thoughts become things in our lives. Our thoughts create our feelings.

I had been thinking thoughts of lack and was critical of myself in all areas. When I began journaling all the things, people, and situations that I was thankful for, a change occurred inside me. My thoughts became more positive and I smiled more. I was happier. On days that I get rushed in the morning and forget to write my list of things I was thankful for would be days that go wrong.

Being thankful is the key to our happiness. It is a choice that anyone can make in any given situation. In the Bible, there is a story of Paul and Silas singing and praising God in a jail. How could they do that in jail? It is a decision they made despite their surroundings and discomforts. The more thankful we are the more happier we will be. The two go hand in hand. Thanks for reading.

Gratitude helps Create a Positive Attitude


There is power in a positive attitude, because it can empower you to keep going. But how can you generate a positive attitude when you are used to being negative?

I struggled most of my life with a negative attitude. When I would think negatively things would spiral out of control. I would say things to myself like, ‘I am my own worst enemy.’ However, something shifted for me when I was unemployed in the summer of 2013. I decided that if I wanted to change my present position in I was going to have to ditch my negative attitude. I did and everything change.

Wayne Dyer says, ‘When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.’ I took the quote to heart and over a period of time my world became better.

One of the things I did was to keep a gratitude journal. I write in it things, people, and experiences I am thankful for. Even the situations that in the past I would have considered horrible, I write how grateful I am for them. Why? Because I have the choice to go through the experience being upset or being happy. Personally I’d rather be happy everyday of my life than spend my time being angry or bitter.

Writing out what I was grateful for began to direct my happiness. The more I write the more my attitude became positive. I realized I had much to be thankful for. Even when our huge tax bill came this year. I decide to be glad for it, because we have been blessed financially to be able to pay for it.

Our attitudes create our environment. What do you want your world to look like?

Finding Gratitude in Criticism


It is possible to find gratitude in someone else’s criticism. However there are a few principles that are vital to having a grateful heart when a person criticizes. 

For much of my life I avoided criticism like it was the plague. To be honest I was like the quote up at the top. I did nothing. However, I have

  1. Expect that not everyone will like your perspective. You will not please everyone and that is not your job here on this earth. Some people don’t even like pizza and that is fine. We do not all have to agree and it is one of the beautiful aspects of being human.
  2. Decide whose opinion is more important. Opinions are like noses, everyone has one.  If you spend your time worrying about what someone else thinks then are living life? The most important opinion is the one you have about you. For a long time I had an ‘I am unworthy’ opinion about myself. Therefore, everyone else’s opinion mattered to me. I had to make a decision that they I was going to live life and if that offended someone then that was their opinion.
  3. I did not like criticism because truthfully I was already critical of myself. Therefore, the way to move out of judgment is to move into gratitude. I started keeping a gratitude journal and the more I wrote that I was thankful for was the more I realized how much I was blessed. When criticism occurred it did not bother me, because of how thankful I was and am. I was no longer condemning myself. I was even able to find the criticism helpful.
  4. Decide it is feedback not criticism. We all need feedback, because how else can we grow? I am not here on earth to stay stagnate therefore, feedback gives me insight into how I can grow and possibly where to put my efforts.

Developing a grateful heart is the key to overcoming critical people. Thanks for reading.


How to get Confidence Quickly


Before I get up to speak or go to an event or even meet a person for the first time, I use this process for gaining confidence quickly.  

There are some prerequisites that we must first acknowledge before we get into gaining confidence. The first is that we are the sum total of the thoughts we think about every minute of every day. If your thoughts are positive then they are supporting you in your endeavors. However, if your thoughts tend to be more negative then you actually are not supporting you.

The second prerequisite is that your thoughts are based on beliefs you have about you. This is why simply stating a positive affirmation or quoting a verse in the bible may not always help you. If the affirmation or scripture is contrary to your belief then it becomes you fighting you. It is the reason many give up on positive affirmations or will say, ‘It doesn’t work.’ I personally found myself doing this.

Therefore, what you can do is say an affirmation that you might agree with by saying it in a way that can empower your belief to change. I use ‘I am open to the possibility’ (then insert whatever you want your affirmation to say). Or ‘This is what I was created for…’ Your beliefs are based on something however you only have them in your life because you get something from them. It is a good idea to investigate why you might want to hold onto them.

How to gain Confidence quickly.

I simply take a deep breath and clear my mind. I remind myself that people need to hear what I have to say. Or people are depending upon me. Then I say this ‘you are a powerful person capable of this.’ Then I do it. Holding onto those negative thoughts will not do me any favors. I still have last second nerves but my anxiety has gone. The thoughts can pile up and therefore it is important to clear the mind.

That is what I do. You may have a different trick or thing you do and if so please share in the comments section.

How to Deal with Annoying People


I don’t know about you, but I have known some pretty annoying people in my life. Sometimes I have felt that the individual had a button that they could press to raise my annoyance level. You know the type of people, they chew with their mouth open. Or they crack their knuckles or possibly their voice grates on your nerves. Still better yet, they go on these crazy Facebook rants.

At some point in each of our lives there is that person tests our patience. What do we do about it? Wayne Dyer said, “Every person has a right to be whatever they choose, even if you irritate yourself about it.” I was floored when I read that and thought back to all the times I had allowed myself to get annoyed at a person. Sometimes I found that when I got to know a person that whatever annoying habit I thought they had was not actually annoying.

How someone or something makes me feel is not really about the person or situation. It is about how I am choosing to feel in that moment. The person can do whatever they want and be themselves. If I let it affect me then it ultimately it is my issue not theirs. If I change then their annoying habit disappears.

I just finished Dyer’s book Your Erroneous Zones and I highly recommend it.