Have you ever experienced difficulty in achieving a goal or dream? An unforeseen obstacle blocked your path and the journey become too much for you.
You may have been on the right path. There is a truth in life called the Law of Opposites and it states that before you see whatever it is that you want, you’ll see the exact opposite. If you desire more friends then you’ll experience what it is like to have no friends. If you want a job then you’ll experience what it is like to be without a job. If you want to be married then you’ll experience what singleness is like.
On the road to finding whatever it is we are looking for we will experience the exact opposite. It is up to us to take note that this is a cue from life indicating that we are in fact on the right track. If you will, the obstacle is the way as Ryan Holiday has said. However, many people take the obstacle as a sign that they need to give up. Or that it is too hard to be done.
The secret truth about goals is that in order to accomplish them we have to become the type of person who is able to achieve that particular goal. For example, the person who is a Doctor is an individual who will have to learn about dedication and discipline to their studies in order to accomplish it. The journey of the goal will change the individual and they will add skills along the way. They will face opposition along the way. The opposition will be different for each person.
However, the opposition is only there to help make you into that the person that achieves that goal. If it was easy then you might not be able to learn anything about your self. In essence, it is about the journey not the goal.
If you are experiencing obstacles in your life right now then take heart that you are on the right path. Keep going forward in faith that you will be able to achieve it. The mere fact you have a desire to do it means that it is already a possibility.
I remember being taught the Golden Rule when I was a child, however, I was not prepared for how it has changed my marriage, work, and relationships.
How did the Golden Rule change my life? Simple, I started treating others the way I wanted to be treated. Easy right? However, there were times where my ego got the better of me. Then I realized my ego just meant that I was Edging God Out.
Even in your business it is not about your profit margin, but doing unto others as you would have done to you. Trust God and leave all the consequences up to Him. If you help your competition then they will do the same for you. If they do not then leave those consequences up to God. It is not for you to control the situation. Or as Ram Dass said, we gain more control when we give it away.
If you are having fights in your marriage ask yourself if that is how you wish to be treated? Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated. It may take some time but eventually they will witness that your actions are not an act. They will know how much you love them by your deeds. What would you like to have in your life? It is your choice. Your spouse is not your enemy, because ultimately you both want the same things.
Practice this Golden Rule (Matthew 7:12) and see what happens.
The more we are grateful is the more that a peace happiness will arise in our hearts.
I can remember how I used to scoff at people who were always so positive. I’d joke about them with others, but deep inside I wanted to be happier and had no clue how to do it. Thoughts become things in our lives. Our thoughts create our feelings.
I had been thinking thoughts of lack and was critical of myself in all areas. When I began journaling all the things, people, and situations that I was thankful for, a change occurred inside me. My thoughts became more positive and I smiled more. I was happier. On days that I get rushed in the morning and forget to write my list of things I was thankful for would be days that go wrong.
Being thankful is the key to our happiness. It is a choice that anyone can make in any given situation. In the Bible, there is a story of Paul and Silas singing and praising God in a jail. How could they do that in jail? It is a decision they made despite their surroundings and discomforts. The more thankful we are the more happier we will be. The two go hand in hand. Thanks for reading.
There is power in a positive attitude, because it can empower you to keep going. But how can you generate a positive attitude when you are used to being negative?
I struggled most of my life with a negative attitude. When I would think negatively things would spiral out of control. I would say things to myself like, ‘I am my own worst enemy.’ However, something shifted for me when I was unemployed in the summer of 2013. I decided that if I wanted to change my present position in I was going to have to ditch my negative attitude. I did and everything change.
Wayne Dyer says, ‘When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.’ I took the quote to heart and over a period of time my world became better.
One of the things I did was to keep a gratitude journal. I write in it things, people, and experiences I am thankful for. Even the situations that in the past I would have considered horrible, I write how grateful I am for them. Why? Because I have the choice to go through the experience being upset or being happy. Personally I’d rather be happy everyday of my life than spend my time being angry or bitter.
Writing out what I was grateful for began to direct my happiness. The more I write the more my attitude became positive. I realized I had much to be thankful for. Even when our huge tax bill came this year. I decide to be glad for it, because we have been blessed financially to be able to pay for it.
Our attitudes create our environment. What do you want your world to look like?
It is possible to find gratitude in someone else’s criticism. However there are a few principles that are vital to having a grateful heart when a person criticizes.
For much of my life I avoided criticism like it was the plague. To be honest I was like the quote up at the top. I did nothing. However, I have
- Expect that not everyone will like your perspective. You will not please everyone and that is not your job here on this earth. Some people don’t even like pizza and that is fine. We do not all have to agree and it is one of the beautiful aspects of being human.
- Decide whose opinion is more important. Opinions are like noses, everyone has one. If you spend your time worrying about what someone else thinks then are living life? The most important opinion is the one you have about you. For a long time I had an ‘I am unworthy’ opinion about myself. Therefore, everyone else’s opinion mattered to me. I had to make a decision that they I was going to live life and if that offended someone then that was their opinion.
- I did not like criticism because truthfully I was already critical of myself. Therefore, the way to move out of judgment is to move into gratitude. I started keeping a gratitude journal and the more I wrote that I was thankful for was the more I realized how much I was blessed. When criticism occurred it did not bother me, because of how thankful I was and am. I was no longer condemning myself. I was even able to find the criticism helpful.
- Decide it is feedback not criticism. We all need feedback, because how else can we grow? I am not here on earth to stay stagnate therefore, feedback gives me insight into how I can grow and possibly where to put my efforts.
Developing a grateful heart is the key to overcoming critical people. Thanks for reading.
This is a video about How to Have Confidence. Personally, I struggled with this most of my life. However I used the tips I will share with you to help get up and make speak in church as well as be in social situations. Enjoy! Thanks for watching.
Before I get up to speak or go to an event or even meet a person for the first time, I use this process for gaining confidence quickly.
There are some prerequisites that we must first acknowledge before we get into gaining confidence. The first is that we are the sum total of the thoughts we think about every minute of every day. If your thoughts are positive then they are supporting you in your endeavors. However, if your thoughts tend to be more negative then you actually are not supporting you.
The second prerequisite is that your thoughts are based on beliefs you have about you. This is why simply stating a positive affirmation or quoting a verse in the bible may not always help you. If the affirmation or scripture is contrary to your belief then it becomes you fighting you. It is the reason many give up on positive affirmations or will say, ‘It doesn’t work.’ I personally found myself doing this.
Therefore, what you can do is say an affirmation that you might agree with by saying it in a way that can empower your belief to change. I use ‘I am open to the possibility’ (then insert whatever you want your affirmation to say). Or ‘This is what I was created for…’ Your beliefs are based on something however you only have them in your life because you get something from them. It is a good idea to investigate why you might want to hold onto them.
How to gain Confidence quickly.
I simply take a deep breath and clear my mind. I remind myself that people need to hear what I have to say. Or people are depending upon me. Then I say this ‘you are a powerful person capable of this.’ Then I do it. Holding onto those negative thoughts will not do me any favors. I still have last second nerves but my anxiety has gone. The thoughts can pile up and therefore it is important to clear the mind.
That is what I do. You may have a different trick or thing you do and if so please share in the comments section.